Life on a Single Road: Memorial Day

Memorial Day was first observed sometime in the 19^th century as a way to honor Union soldiers who had perished in the Civil War. It eventually came to be a day of observance for all those who died serving our country; I hope that includes the Confederate soldiers who died serving a nation that was temporarily divided. In 1971, it was moved to the last Monday in May. It was until recently I noticed that Memorial Day was for those who died serving our country or died in the line of duty.

My first impression of Memorial Day was 1^st unofficial day of summer. In Minidoka County, school got out just before Memorial Day. I really didn’t know why Memorial Day was celebrated; I just knew it was a holiday. Our family didn’t visit the cemetery in Paul or any other city in the Mini-Cassia area. Mom prepared a picnic and we ate on the front lawn as we swatted and slapped away the flies who thought the feast was for them. After a few years in Salt Lake, I would hear people talk about leaving flowers on graves of family members on Memorial Day. I think I always knew that Memorial Day was day of remembrance, because I wasn’t surprised that visiting graves was an activity for this holiday. Somewhere in my subconscious, my mother or one of my teachers told me what Memorial Day really was. It wasn’t the1^st Official Day of Summer Vacation and isn’t National BBQ & Picnic Day.

I can’t think of anyone in my family, including extended family members who died while serving their country. My dad served in Alaska during World War II. His name is on a monument along a highway in Conejos County in Colorado. When my dad died, my cousin, Bryant showed up in his Marine uniform. Bryant’s brother, William also served in the military. Bryant’s daughter, Courtney is active duty somewhere in the world. Quite a few of my high school classmates have served in the military. Uncle Charley and Great-Grandma Boice were the first relatives I remember passing on. My parents didn’t go to my mom’s grandma’s funeral, but they did go to Uncle Charley. I don’t really remember much of them and I am not sure if I had met them. We lived in Idaho and they lived in Colorado and New Mexico. Gas wasn’t cheap then either and farming left no time for vacations.

The first relative’s passing that had an affect on me was my cousin, Edward, Bryant’s older brother. For a time, Edward and Bryant’s family lived in Blackfoot and we would visit when time allowed. A few months before Edward died; he came home from Ricks College with my brother, Mike. I saw a quieter version of my cousin. He was kind and thoughtful. This was the last time I saw him. So on this Memorial Day, I remember him and yes, I miss him. Edward was a good man. Since Edward; there have been others, my dad, my mom’s parents, some uncles and aunts, even another cousin. My mom’s siblings are still living, but my dad’s siblings are gone, except for my Aunt Wilma, who married a Jackson. Each has touched my life. Uncle Herb was kind and taught me thru his example of how thoughtful and resourceful Japanese people are. My Aunt Isabelle was charitable person. She opened her home to my mom’s sibling when my Grandpa Boice died. Jackson’s are just like that. I miss Paul, even though I only met him as a child. He is teaching me understanding and to be non judgmental of others now.